Zen Talk #168- Todd’s Venting Session, Loss of Freedom, High School Graduation, Sports Leading to Identity crisis, & Not Wanting to Be a Nag

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:40 Centering
2:47 Todd’s venting
13:35 My first born is about to show up and I feel overwhelmed
24:48 My first born is graduating high school 🙁
29:17 My son is injured and I’m worried about him over-identifying as an athlete
45:39 I want my kids to clean up, but I don’t want to be a nag

Zen Talk 167- Virtual Class-Understanding Our Sons

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Centering
4:09- Todd’s story of the two boys
11:00 Alpha and the Beta male
16:18 Manbox- Sports tied to identity
24:17- Introverted sons
35:17 stats on boys and men
41:04 Mask You Live in Trailer
48:25 Ways to connect with our sons
1:00:11 Positive male role models
1:13:00  12 year old son is hitting 10 year old sister
1:18:09 Millie wisdom

Zen Talk #165- The Sisters Project Talks Birth & Death

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Discussion & Time Stamps
9:55 Is dementia happening now more than when we grow up? 
19:08 Advice for a first time parent?
25:43 Pivot!!!
30:49 Any regrets as you cared for your mom in her last stages of life? 
34:17 Succession spoiler
38:20 End of spoiler
42:17 Should I have been more assertive when I was caring for my mom?  
48:10 “Woo woo” experiences 

Zen Talk #164- Understanding our Daughters with Special Guest Jacey Adams

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
4:08 Lack of therapists
5:15 Are we over-pathologizing our girls
8:00 Weight loss drugs
9:25 Are we blaming our girls
13:00 Ages of daughters of the people on the call
17:13 Asked Jacey Adams (20 years old) what kids are struggling with
26:49 13 year old daughter- how much do i push to get the conversation started
33:09 17 year old daughter struggling with anxiety, depression, and disordered eating.  Should I push therapy onto her?  
43:39 19 year old with anxiety/depression/suicidal ideation- how hard should i push her to start doing doing “adult things?”
55:32 Navigating body image for my 16 year old daughter
1:09:44 How can I be a better father to my unborn daughter?
1:21:36 Positive things from Gen Z

Zen Talk #161 with Dr. Shefali Tsabary

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
1:00 Centering
2:48 Boundaries
10:31 Porn
16:15 Ex-husband and his new girlfriend
25:06 How do I support my daughters in therapy?
30:36 My 12 year old’s anger holds us hostage
36:54 I’m worried about my son in a way that I’m not worried about my daughter
48:23 Should I seek outside support for my sons?

TZO (Team Zen Only) Podcast- Intuition or Fear?

By Todd Adams on

Hi everybody, Hope you enjoy our very first TZO (Team Zen Only) Podcast where we discussed the differences between intuition and fear. Our next Zen talk #160 will be on Tuesday, February 7th @ 12 PM Central on zoom You can quickly look up topics on previous Zen Talks by using the search function in the Circle platform Our Zen …

Zen Talk #159 School Advocacy, Willful Daughters, & Report Cards

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Welcome & Team Zen Circle Update
4:58 Centering
9:54 Breaking up twins in school or not?
20:23 Willful 7 year old daughter is sometimes defiant and unwilling to listen
32:48 Should I advocate for my 8th grader at school or let her advocate for herself
45:52 14 year old son feels pressured and his grades are below our expectations

Jayson Gaddis- Zen Talk #158 Communication, Projections, & Feedback

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Intro
6:33 The Dorsal vagal (back side) of the vagus nerve responds to cues of danger. How does this knowledge help us in conflict?
14:06 When in stress, I lose my ability to communicate and my partner over-communicates with words
27:35: When the other person won’t change
36:10 The danger of looking up to people
40:22 When people are teaching you knowledge that you already know
47:25 Todd reveals projection onto Jayson
49:59 How does Jayson show up in relationship with his wife?
52: 09 How to do feedback

Dr. John Duffy- Zen Talk #153- Nudes, Teenage Friendships,& Raising Boys

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
2:02 Centering
4:13 13 year old daughter is hanging out with the wrong people
15:08 15 year old son might be sexually active
34:15 What’s the impact of the pandemic
29:52 Nudes
44:20 14 year old son struggling with focus.  Should we get him tested?
44:28 Two teenage boys struggling with emotional expression/boy crisis