Zen Talk #73- Brother’s Withdrawal, Climate Change, Body Image, & Toddlers

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:55 Brother upset about mom’s will and is withdrawing from the family
21:12 11 year old son is expressing anxiety regarding climate change
27:51 11 year old son is becoming body conscious
36:42 5 year old son having a hard time managing anger and frustration
47:40 Toddlers are expressing normal “toddler-like behavior”- stuttering, biting nails, pushing boundaries, but mom is having a hard time navigating

Grown & Flown- Zen Talk #70

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:35 The balance between staying connected and not helicoptering
8:11 How to stay connected to my rebel daughter
15:40 College admissions process- am i backing off too much?
34:35 The things we really need to be teaching our kid
Can they cope with hard feelings
Can they handle their own problems
Can they take full responsibility with self care- Can they manage their time?
Do they know how/when to seek help
Can they take responsibility for their own bad decisions
Can our kids assess risk- 
37:50 My niece wants to be a beautician, how do I navigate this?  

Self-Compassion, Self-Compassion, & … Self-Compassion- Zen Talk #69

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:52 Dealing with an aging mom
15:10 How to stay calm when my husband is mad at traffic, AT&T, Rep, etc. 
24:42 How do I help my 7 year old son practice self-compassion
31:39 Aging mom Part 2
36:50 I’m a teacher and I feel bad because my student’s parents “disciplined” their son
44:49 I’m going back to work and I’m carrying some motherhood guilt for my daughter who is still living with us.

Dyslexia, Behaving, Credit Cards, & Religion- Zen Talk #68

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:02 13 year old is mean to his 7 year old brother. 
11:17 My daughter has been labeled dyslexic.  How do I best support her? 
27:50 My husband tells the kids to behave and it doesn’t sit right.
36:29 My son lied about using the family credit card to pay for his friend’s food.  What are the appropriate consequences?
48:38 We’re not religious, but we send our daughters to a religious high school and we’re struggling with the misalignment b/w values

Zen Talk #66 With Dr. John Duffy

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:09 12 year old boy is shutting down and husband taking a passive role
12:48 Difference b/w American teenage culture and the rest of the world.
16:10 Difference b/w 1st book and most recent book
20:00 17 year old applying to colleges and navigating the identity traffic
27:38 Connecting with teens
30:03 Divorce impacting teenage years
36:18 14 year-old daughter and talking about sex
45:08 16 year old daughter is giving mom the most difficult time

Zen Talk #65- Saying Please, Enneagram, & Jake Gyllenhaal

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:48 1440 Multiversity banter
1:59 Chipotle banter
2:53 My kid is asking me to say please and I don’t want to because she’s being difficult
8:16 Should the “please” rules be different for our partner?
18:13 Amanda response
20:36 Visco
27:35 Enneagram and how it relates to how you keep your house
37:56 Jake Gylenhall

Enneagram, Entertaining Kids, & Magical Thinking -Zen Talk #64

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Conference update
8:28 Mom feels like she needs to be in charge of entertaining her kid
17:15 Only children
23:18 Enneagram discussion
29:40 Enneagram- stress, average, & integration
40:00 Other enneagram observations
45:58 Daughter is doing some “magical” thinking

Negative Energy, Judgment, & Disappointment -Zen Talk #63

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Discussion & Time Stamps
3:36 Negative energy in the household is overwhelming
19:39 Judging people and their actions by today’s culture, or from when the actions took place
37:05 Mom has a hard time not talking when her kid is challenged.  Needs tips to cultivate better listening skills
50:05 How to cope when your kids are disappointed by peers/school/etc.

Anxiety, Triangulation, THINK, -Zen Talk #61

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Discussion & Time Stamps
3:00 Mom who suffers from depression and anxiety.  She has moved from people pleasing over to standing up in a passive aggressive manner?  Is this progress or regression?
17:26 Mom’s 10 year old daughter and 8 year old son get along great until a neighbor kid comes over.  The 10 year old becomes mean. 
26:20 (THINK) acronym True.  Helpful.  Inspiring.  Necessary.  Kind.
33:00 Lauren’s 4th grader needs breaks during the school day due to anxiety.  How does one support here?
40:08 18 month old suffers from separation anxiety during drop-offs of nursery school.  What do I do? 

Family Dynamics, Summer Boredom & $$-Zen Talk #60

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:02 Discussion of the meme- “You are not everyone’s cup of tea” 
14:23 How do we keep kids motivated during the dog days of summer?
40:11 Money and allowances?  
52:07 Angry about the injustices of the world

Addiction, Emotional Labor, & Resentment- Zen Talk #59

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Big Little Lies
2:58 Sister has struggled with addiction and has lost custody of her son.  Need some support and ideas.
14:49 Emotional labor question about a loving husband who isn’t getting it.
30:24 My differently wired daughter isn’t always socially appropriate and momma feels social pressure.
42:32 Mom dealing with resentment of her ex-husband

Zen Talk #58 with Gemma Hartley

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Discussion & Time Stamps
Emotional labor as it relates to:
2:17 Bringing topic up to partner part I
8:58 In-laws
12:45 Bringing topic up to partner part II
19:43 How it is viewed by your kids
24:30 Holidays
27:56 Resentment towards your partner
32:48 Control of how things need to get done (shared standards)
39:10 Religion
41:56 The generation older than us
46:33 Avoiding the book

Teachers, Costumes, & Fear- ZenTalk #57

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:10 Micro-community updates
4:26 When teachers (that you hold in high regard) say something that you don’t agree with
21:42 4 year old daughter is going to preschool wearing a costume throughout the year
33:48- Best way to keep yourself from going down a dark path. (divorce)

Siblings, Different Paths Than Husband- ZenTalk #56

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Cashflow story
2:51 My daughter (14) is on the spectrum and is now being home schooled by specialists.  My son who sometime suffers from anxiety (12) is feeling jealous that he has to go to school and I’m not sure how to help him understand. 
15:35 Why does everyone think of someone else that would benefit from the advice in a self development book when in reality you are reading the book for yourself and the only person you have any reasonable chance to influence is yourself.
25:34 My husband is not on the same path of self-awareness and spirituality as I am.  I feel lonely and sometimes have dark thoughts like that if I could do it over again, would I look for somebody different. 
47:18 I get judgmental when my husband tells me about things he likes that trigger me. 
56:53 How to find out about new Zen Talks

Grief, Boundaries, Pregnancy- ZenTalk #55

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:42 Survey Feedback
9:10 How to support my mom who is about to lose her mom (my grandma)1
7:56 I’m struggling to set boundaries with my teenage son
32:10 Do you really know Ricky Henderson?36:07 How do i re-frame my thoughts regarding me challenges of getting pregnant
41:14 Erin’s support of struggling through pregnancy
51:24 1440 Multiversity update

Husbands, Self-Care, Siblings, Friendships, & School- ZenTalk #54

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Discussion & Time Stamps
Discussion & Time Stamps0:00 Sera is struggling with discussing her need to cut back on her job with her husband due the chaotic schedule amongst other things.11:53 Malini is having a hard time deciding when it’s time to play with her sons and when it’s time for her to play or practice self- care.22:22 Judy’s struggling with low self-esteem and her kids are being impacted.  How do we make sure they don’t take her issues on as their own?29:22 Estee daughter and mean towards her younger brother and wants support in how and when to intervene.42:31 Anita’s 14 year old was caught skipping classes and she thinks it might have to be due to a new friendship she has struck with a girl friend that might be negatively influencing her daughter.ResourcesCashflow Board GameHave You Filled a Bucket Today?: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids (Bucketfilling Books)