Zen Talk #78- Corona Virus Part 1

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:33 Cathy’s intro to the corona virus
6:03 Lauren doesn’t know whether to let the nanny back in their home
20:38 Gail needs suggestions to motivate her teenagers.
26:40 Millie is in a shelter in place situation in northern California. How do I motivate my eight year olds in an e-learning situation.
40:45 Marjorie has an 8 year old is having a hard time because of his need for routine and structure.
43:25 Kelsey is 7 months pregnant and is struggling with some fear.
58:02 Emily has an only child 6 year old and is worried if she’s getting enough social interaction.

Zen Talk #77 Marriage, Emotional Athletes, Quitting

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Discussion & Time Stamps
3:25 How do I make my kids feel supported when the other parent is in a triggered/threatened state
30:08 11 year old son who emotes on the soccer field
41:19 15 year old daughter wants to quit cheerleading. What should I do?

Zen Talk #73- Brother’s Withdrawal, Climate Change, Body Image, & Toddlers

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:55 Brother upset about mom’s will and is withdrawing from the family
21:12 11 year old son is expressing anxiety regarding climate change
27:51 11 year old son is becoming body conscious
36:42 5 year old son having a hard time managing anger and frustration
47:40 Toddlers are expressing normal “toddler-like behavior”- stuttering, biting nails, pushing boundaries, but mom is having a hard time navigating

Grown & Flown- Zen Talk #70

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:35 The balance between staying connected and not helicoptering
8:11 How to stay connected to my rebel daughter
15:40 College admissions process- am i backing off too much?
34:35 The things we really need to be teaching our kid
Can they cope with hard feelings
Can they handle their own problems
Can they take full responsibility with self care- Can they manage their time?
Do they know how/when to seek help
Can they take responsibility for their own bad decisions
Can our kids assess risk- 
37:50 My niece wants to be a beautician, how do I navigate this?  

Self-Compassion, Self-Compassion, & … Self-Compassion- Zen Talk #69

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:52 Dealing with an aging mom
15:10 How to stay calm when my husband is mad at traffic, AT&T, Rep, etc. 
24:42 How do I help my 7 year old son practice self-compassion
31:39 Aging mom Part 2
36:50 I’m a teacher and I feel bad because my student’s parents “disciplined” their son
44:49 I’m going back to work and I’m carrying some motherhood guilt for my daughter who is still living with us.

Dyslexia, Behaving, Credit Cards, & Religion- Zen Talk #68

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:02 13 year old is mean to his 7 year old brother. 
11:17 My daughter has been labeled dyslexic.  How do I best support her? 
27:50 My husband tells the kids to behave and it doesn’t sit right.
36:29 My son lied about using the family credit card to pay for his friend’s food.  What are the appropriate consequences?
48:38 We’re not religious, but we send our daughters to a religious high school and we’re struggling with the misalignment b/w values

Zen Talk #66 With Dr. John Duffy

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:09 12 year old boy is shutting down and husband taking a passive role
12:48 Difference b/w American teenage culture and the rest of the world.
16:10 Difference b/w 1st book and most recent book
20:00 17 year old applying to colleges and navigating the identity traffic
27:38 Connecting with teens
30:03 Divorce impacting teenage years
36:18 14 year-old daughter and talking about sex
45:08 16 year old daughter is giving mom the most difficult time

Zen Talk #65- Saying Please, Enneagram, & Jake Gyllenhaal

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:48 1440 Multiversity banter
1:59 Chipotle banter
2:53 My kid is asking me to say please and I don’t want to because she’s being difficult
8:16 Should the “please” rules be different for our partner?
18:13 Amanda response
20:36 Visco
27:35 Enneagram and how it relates to how you keep your house
37:56 Jake Gylenhall

Enneagram, Entertaining Kids, & Magical Thinking -Zen Talk #64

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Conference update
8:28 Mom feels like she needs to be in charge of entertaining her kid
17:15 Only children
23:18 Enneagram discussion
29:40 Enneagram- stress, average, & integration
40:00 Other enneagram observations
45:58 Daughter is doing some “magical” thinking

Negative Energy, Judgment, & Disappointment -Zen Talk #63

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Discussion & Time Stamps
3:36 Negative energy in the household is overwhelming
19:39 Judging people and their actions by today’s culture, or from when the actions took place
37:05 Mom has a hard time not talking when her kid is challenged.  Needs tips to cultivate better listening skills
50:05 How to cope when your kids are disappointed by peers/school/etc.

Anxiety, Triangulation, THINK, -Zen Talk #61

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Discussion & Time Stamps
3:00 Mom who suffers from depression and anxiety.  She has moved from people pleasing over to standing up in a passive aggressive manner?  Is this progress or regression?
17:26 Mom’s 10 year old daughter and 8 year old son get along great until a neighbor kid comes over.  The 10 year old becomes mean. 
26:20 (THINK) acronym True.  Helpful.  Inspiring.  Necessary.  Kind.
33:00 Lauren’s 4th grader needs breaks during the school day due to anxiety.  How does one support here?
40:08 18 month old suffers from separation anxiety during drop-offs of nursery school.  What do I do? 

Family Dynamics, Summer Boredom & $$-Zen Talk #60

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:02 Discussion of the meme- “You are not everyone’s cup of tea” 
14:23 How do we keep kids motivated during the dog days of summer?
40:11 Money and allowances?  
52:07 Angry about the injustices of the world

Addiction, Emotional Labor, & Resentment- Zen Talk #59

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Big Little Lies
2:58 Sister has struggled with addiction and has lost custody of her son.  Need some support and ideas.
14:49 Emotional labor question about a loving husband who isn’t getting it.
30:24 My differently wired daughter isn’t always socially appropriate and momma feels social pressure.
42:32 Mom dealing with resentment of her ex-husband