Zen Talk #58 with Gemma Hartley

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Discussion & Time Stamps
Emotional labor as it relates to:
2:17 Bringing topic up to partner part I
8:58 In-laws
12:45 Bringing topic up to partner part II
19:43 How it is viewed by your kids
24:30 Holidays
27:56 Resentment towards your partner
32:48 Control of how things need to get done (shared standards)
39:10 Religion
41:56 The generation older than us
46:33 Avoiding the book

Teachers, Costumes, & Fear- ZenTalk #57

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:10 Micro-community updates
4:26 When teachers (that you hold in high regard) say something that you don’t agree with
21:42 4 year old daughter is going to preschool wearing a costume throughout the year
33:48- Best way to keep yourself from going down a dark path. (divorce)

Siblings, Different Paths Than Husband- ZenTalk #56

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Cashflow story
2:51 My daughter (14) is on the spectrum and is now being home schooled by specialists.  My son who sometime suffers from anxiety (12) is feeling jealous that he has to go to school and I’m not sure how to help him understand. 
15:35 Why does everyone think of someone else that would benefit from the advice in a self development book when in reality you are reading the book for yourself and the only person you have any reasonable chance to influence is yourself.
25:34 My husband is not on the same path of self-awareness and spirituality as I am.  I feel lonely and sometimes have dark thoughts like that if I could do it over again, would I look for somebody different. 
47:18 I get judgmental when my husband tells me about things he likes that trigger me. 
56:53 How to find out about new Zen Talks

Grief, Boundaries, Pregnancy- ZenTalk #55

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:42 Survey Feedback
9:10 How to support my mom who is about to lose her mom (my grandma)1
7:56 I’m struggling to set boundaries with my teenage son
32:10 Do you really know Ricky Henderson?36:07 How do i re-frame my thoughts regarding me challenges of getting pregnant
41:14 Erin’s support of struggling through pregnancy
51:24 1440 Multiversity update

Husbands, Self-Care, Siblings, Friendships, & School- ZenTalk #54

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Discussion & Time Stamps
Discussion & Time Stamps0:00 Sera is struggling with discussing her need to cut back on her job with her husband due the chaotic schedule amongst other things.11:53 Malini is having a hard time deciding when it’s time to play with her sons and when it’s time for her to play or practice self- care.22:22 Judy’s struggling with low self-esteem and her kids are being impacted.  How do we make sure they don’t take her issues on as their own?29:22 Estee daughter and mean towards her younger brother and wants support in how and when to intervene.42:31 Anita’s 14 year old was caught skipping classes and she thinks it might have to be due to a new friendship she has struck with a girl friend that might be negatively influencing her daughter.ResourcesCashflow Board GameHave You Filled a Bucket Today?: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids (Bucketfilling Books)

Meltdowns, Illness, & Neurodiversity- ZenTalk #53

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:35 Helen’s daughter is embarrassed that her mom is getting gray hair and wants her to start coloring.
10:28 Estee’s 7 year old daughter is melting down with screams and she’s struggling to manage the melt downs b/w allowing her to express her feelings and not accepting verbal abuse.
26:10 Anita’s 14 year old daughter is struggling with a daughter who has scoliosis.  The daughter is refusing to wear it as much as the doctor prescribed.  
42:45 Kate is struggling with letting go of a past challenge that is still relative in her life because the matter is in the hands of the legal system.  
50:48 Dawn is looking to build a micro-community of a few team members that have direct experience with differently wired kids.  if interested, IM Dawn Dockey on the Team Zen Facebook page, or email me @ todd@zenparentingradio.com

Husbands, Death, Self-care, Husbands- ZenTalk #52

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Discussion & Time Stamps
4:43 Lauren is challenged with supporting her husband through a grieving process due to a death in his family
24:14 Dawn is wondering how she can do more exercise and why people change or don’t change.  
40:42 Millie is wondering when and how to disagree with her husband as it relates to her children’s experience of observing them
56:00 Kate gave us an update on her husband’s recent challenges and what has been learned
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School, Disobedience, School- ZenTalk #51

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:00 11 year old son wants to go to one school, parents want him to go to a different school. 
13:10 What do you do when your parenting techniques change so drastically that you “freak” our kids out
17:56 Child telling mom she has a “RBF”
23:42 Different thoughts about punishment
26:55 Techniques to help a kids calm down in a chaotic classroom
38:58 11 year old son has aversions to “eating” noises @ the dinner table
48:17 Jennifer expresses gratitude and updates us on the separation from her husband

Self-care, Tweens, Anxiety, Disobedience, Divorce- ZenTalk #50

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:00 Helen had a question between self-love and being selfish for her daughter.

8:24 Kimmee has an “uncoachable” 10 year old who has some challenges with perfectionism. 

22:56 Megan’s 10 year old has some anxiety challenges to the point where he wants to join her in the bathroom at the grocery store.  Is this normal? 

30:56 Anita is struggling with her 11 year old daughter who is some displaying some rebellious behaviors with her.  She doesn’t know whether she’s too strict or not strict enough.

45:26 Matt lives apart from his 6 year old daughter and is struggling to maintain connection with her partially due to the opposing parent philosophies with his former wife

1:01:45 1440 update- Oct 25th-27th

Siblings, Screen, Meltdowns, College- ZenTalk #49

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Discussion & Time Stamps
4:00 Anita has two daughters (13 & 11) and they are really mean to each other.

15:00 Judy has a son who is programming on his computer at all hours of the day and he’s letting school work slip.

Jacqueline & Matt have a 3-1/2 year old daughter who is emoting (hitting/melt downs) in a way that doesn’t fit their plans.  

Liz has an 18 year old who is a freshman at college and is struggling with anxiety and some depression.  Liz sometimes feels helpless and is asking for support.

Husbands, Friendships – ZenTalk #48

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Discussion & Time Stamps
5:12 Sarah needing support regarding “asking permission” to do certain things- she says it doesn’t feel right.  
20:26 Kristen is going to the Women’s March and needs help with some clarity why it’s important.  
27:49 Jennifer’s 10 year old daughter is struggling with friendships.  What’s the appropriate balance with boundaries and and allowing? 
44:30  Joe’s 6 year old son is farting and is inappropriate many of the times. 

Tweens, School, Disobedience- ZenTalk #47

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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:30 Learning how to let our pre-teens deal with adversity
10:17 My 5 year old cries at school at seemingly common things
19:34 My 6 year old son is quiet at school, but his behavior becomes extremely erratic once he gets home from school.  Examples- hitting his brother and having bathroom mistakes
40:25 Jen checks in and asks for support.  

Debbie Reber, Neurodiversity, Siblings ZenTalk #46

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Intro
6:17 Erin has a differently wired kid.  She wants to know how/what to do before her son gets the nueropsychology  evaluation.  
10:58 Erin’s son is adopted.  How does that play into it?
12:59 Description of Differently Wired podcast
14:15 Todd’s client’s son is 3 and has not been able to get consensus from the professionals.  
16:06 Nicki over shares about her differently wired daughter.  
19:37 Nicki’s struggling with the docctor’s request for her 14 year old daughter to start taking a more active role in her own care.  
24:40 Cathy’s college students struggle with Tilt #3- “Don’t Worry About What Other’s Think”
34:54 Dawn sees her own issues of overthinking situations
42:58 Heather- Sibling rivalries- HELP!!! 11 year old dumps all his baggage on his 7 year old.  
51:56 Does humor help?  
56:10 Debbie’s close

School, Friendships, Divorce- ZenTalk #45

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:22 Nikki has been advised by the school that her daughter should not be friends with one of her friends because of serious behavioral issues that have arisen.  She and her daughter both like this girl, but she doesn’t want to be naive.  
18:33 Grapes- seedless or not?  
22:15 Struggling with the social dynamics with her daughter and friends in the car.
38:10 Jennifer is going through some significant life changes and has asked the Team for support.  

ZenTalk-Sex Ed

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
To get most out of this presentation, it would help to download the power point we worked from.  It can be found here.  

Emotional Intelligence, Self-compassion, Toddler, Friendships- ZenTalk #44

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
1:15 Todd’s jealous of other podcasts and how we should deal with envy
5:40 Kim has a sensitive 4th grade son who is starting to show signs of internalizing his feelings. 
27:13 Sandra has an 11 year old daughter who has self-esteem issues and is way too hard on herself.
41:15 My toddler is in the same pre-school as a child whose parents are neo-nazi’s.  Should I restrict any time spent with his friend?  
51:10 My 15 year old now finds herself with friends who can drive.  What guidelines should I put onto this? 

Tween Friendships, Disobedience, Nuerodiversity- ZenTalk #43

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Discussion & Time Stamps
1:06 My 6th grade son is trying really hard to be one of the “cool kids” at the expense of his existing friendships

18:00 My 6 year old daughter is lying to us.  I’m not sure why and not sure how to hold her accountable for her actions.  

31:06 My 13 year old is wired differently and it’s impacting our whole family.  I’m not sure how to meet everybody’s needs. 

Meltdowns, Tweens, School, Self-care- ZenTalk #42

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:38 3-1/2 year old flips out b/c there’s a hole in his bread

4:54 6th grader needing help with time management

10:56 How men can best support with the #metoo movement

23:17 When school is telling the parents how to organize the kids

36:50 Kelsey struggling with self-care when she’s triggered

Siblings, ZenTalk #41

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Discussion & Time Stamps
0:15 Chores, Allowances, Babysitting, & Family Meeting

26:27 How Do I know when it’s time for professional help for my son?

36:23 Bonding with one kid is easier than the other.

60:04 Feelings about the Kavanaugh/Ford Senate Committee Hearing